It’s my pleasure each Sunday to share my own nature picture and share a thought or two about God’s love for you.
I couldn’t believe this sunset in the dead of winter.
When I’m feeling:
God’s love blazes just as hot for us when we’re cold.
We just need to take that first step.
Toward the Son.
I have a few confessions today.
One, I know you’re there. Yep, you aren’t leaving comments for the most part, and that’s okay. Twice a month I check the back end of things here to make sure everything is working and it’s there I see how many of you visit, and for how long. Lately, many of you are coming to me in person or through a private message sharing something that I didn’t know I told you. Then I realize, I wrote it here. Busted! I’m so glad you’re reading. Because, I think my lesson this week might help you, too.
We’ve been moving forward in faith the fulfillment of what we think God’s called us to this year. We’re getting our home ready to put on market and have been praying for the entire process, including buying what we consider our forever home. We’ve been in the area for 10 years and unless God directs otherwise, we believe this is where my husband will retire many, MANY years from now. 🙂
God gave us a great mortgage company that works with veterans and they have been amazing. They have local agents they contract with, and we believe she is a wonderful fit for us. She’s proved to be an advocate for us and is full of wisdom.The other thing He gave us was vision. As you can see in this picture of my husband, his oldest son, and our son, we’re a glasses wearing family. Third confession, we weren’t all wearing glasses during the tour of the home I’m about to write, but this picture works for the lesson I learned.
Here’s what I learned.
When we first went through that home months ago, we were like the young adults who see each other in the hallway and find instant attraction. Everything is appealing. Flaws? What flaws? At this point, no one is even looking for the negative. It’s all about the positive, and you walk away thinking you’re positive you want a future together.
The second tour for us, we got serious. We took along lists of what to look for. Our agent was with us, giving guidance and wisdom. We opened doors. Looked at paint. Fixtures. The fine print. Details.
And in that tour, the rose colored glasses came off. There are a lot of positives in that house. But, there are some negatives we missed the first time. Enough that we all took a step back and said you know what, we don’t want to jump right in and have regrets. Let’s take our time. Look some more. And if this continues to show up on our radar, then we need to do serious negotiating with the owners. And if not, we know God’s got this.
The illustration I used with my family was before Tom came in the picture, I had my future mapped out thanks to a first walk through impression. Everything looked positive. Any flaws brought to my attention were dismissed. Bringing the agent of my life to the forefront–my heavenly Father–I wasn’t mature enough to consider such a thing.
But thank God, when that didn’t materialize, I recognized His hand immediately and did the craziest thing.
I didn’t shed a tear. Not one. I thanked Him. Because if that wasn’t my future and it had all those positives, then what God DID have planned for me was even better.
And within months, there was a man God planned for me since creation, in my life.
That’s where we’re at. We’re so thankful He gave us the unity to all see the same things during that second look. That we all agreed it is a great house, but it’s not exactly perfect, and it’s worth doing more investigating. Because if that house isn’t it, we can’t wait to see what He does have for us.
My guess is this little lesson might apply to relationships more than looking for a home, but what do I know. But if there’s something in the pit of your belly crashing loud enough for your heart to hear it, I encourage you to slow down and consult the Agent of your life. Let Christ be your compass, and God will be present. Wear the glasses, but allow Him to take the rose tint off so you can see things as He sees them. He doesn’t show you the red flags or issues to rain on your parade, but to be real. He longs for you to lean on Him so He can direct your path. I can’t tell you what’s ahead for you anymore than I can for us and our house process. But I promise, He’s faithful. I’ve yet to be abandoned or let down.
And I believe the same for you.
Addy is a pastor’s wife who knows when Conrad shows up, he has a message not only to bless Addy, but bless others. Conrad challenges her to be the blessing, and she experiences blessings in return as she leaves her comfort zone and is intentional about blessing others. When Addy is in need, she realizes she can still be a blessing.
This is the second release from Paula Mowery and it’s a powerful one that can be read in a sitting and still give an impact. When Addy decides to be the blessing she encounters different situations I know I’ve probably walked past and never thought about, or just did it without thinking. Be the Blessing demonstrates that when we’re intentional and follow that still, small voice challenging us, we’re imitators of Christ. That’s powerful.
Like I mentioned, this is a quick read, yet full of emotional moments we can all relate to. I highly recommend anyone who desires to step out and love like Jesus get a hold of Be the Blessing. You won’t be disappointed.
So, Valentine’s Day…
Hallmark conspiracy or a great day to focus on love?
I’m spending my day in an unconventional way (hint: Cue the Law and Order music) but thought I’d share a couple Valentine memories over the years. It’s funny how my romance meter ebbs and flows.
I’m 6 and in the first grade and I get the stomach flu. I miss an entire week of school including my Valentine’s party. I remember my bag being overstuffed with valentines. I felt so loved. I remember the guy I had a little first grade crush on gave me a Hong Kong Phooey card. Oh the days!
I’m 26 and a newlywed. My husband comes home and I have such huge hopes that our time together will mirror one of his black and white movies we watch together. He comes home and hands me a plastic shopping bag with an oversized pink kitten sweatshirt. I’ll never forget his words as he handed the bag to me.
“This was on sale.”
I laugh now and it took a long time to communicate my disappointment. He felt pressured by a coworker to buy something and knew I was practical so he thought saying it was on sale would sound practical. I admitted handing me a bag with those words didn’t make me feel valued. He then confessed the shirt was all that was left. You know what though? I wore that thing for years. It’s a good story to talk about expectations.
The last Valentine’s that stands out I think I was 30. Our son was hooked on the show Lizzie McGuire. We watched every episode including what the heartthrob character wrote in Lizzie’s yearbook. I thought it was a stroke of genius that I wrote that statement in my husband’s card. An inside joke. An ode to Lizzie.
I chuckled all week thinking about him opening the card.
You rock. Don’t ever change.
I still laugh about that, we became so one in communication we wrote the same thing to each other!
What Valentine memories do you have?
First posted 2/14/11
4 Reasons to Celebrate Valentine’s Day
It’s that time of year again! Where love blooms, the color red and pink are abundant, fresh roses are on every street corner and chocolates are out of stock in a matter of minutes. Valentine’s Day has a lot of enemies and a lot of fans. Whether you are a naysayer or supporter here are a few reasons to celebrate the day of love this year:
Show you care: Yes we know you should always show your loved one that you love them all year long, but why not make one day a year extra special. Show them you love them by doing something above and beyond your normal affections. It can be as simple as making them a card, buying a single rose or taking them to their favorite restaurant for a romantic meal.
Your excuse to dress up: At one point moms and wives were once high heel wearing, make up loving, hair doing women. And then life caught up with us. Work, kids, marriage and family. Wearing sweatpants is comfortable and all but Valentine’s Day is a great excuse to get all gussied up and feel extra saucy. So go book reservations at that little restaurant down the road or salsa dance lessons now!
Rekindle the flame: Sometimes marriage can be tough. We all go through a rough patch where love somehow gets mixed up and lost in your busy lives. This holiday is for those who need a little push in the right direction. There are cards, flowers, chocolates and restaurants and balloons to your aid. Pick your passion and it’s just up to you to open your heart and enjoy spending time with that loved one.
Eat Chocolate: There is only one time a year that devouring a box of chocolates is socially acceptable. Valentine’s Day is that lucky day. So don’t hesitate, ignore that diet plan and dive into those chocolate covered strawberries.
No matter your stance on this ‘Hallmark’ Holiday,why hate on a holiday that is devoted to spreading love and being happy. Plus, it never hurt to tell the person you love, that you in fact do love them. Happy Valentine’s Day!