Twice in a row! It must be a record. I’m excited to be able to participate in e-Mom’s Marriage Monday. Before I share her topic and my personal story, I think congratulations are in order.

e-Mom is a grandma! I love her story and I’m with e-Mom, the timing of this precious birth isn’t a coincidence. Such a beautiful post, I hope you read it and leave your congratulations.

But sometimes those baby stories aren’t all happy ones. Part of my “broken places” that I share with others is my experience with infertility and PCOS journey. Although I drive my family nuts by being so open, I do it about what personally affected me in hopes it encourages someone else.

And today, I think there is someone out there who needs to know my story.

I learned at age twenty-five I had PCOS, polycystic ovarian syndrome. The symptoms for me were irregular periods, acne, and hormonal imbalance. The doctor sat me down, knowing I was in a serious relationship that looked like it was heading for marriage. He spent 45 minutes with me sharing his story, even though we both heard the crying babies and other patients outside the other door.

He was candid and let me know that I would most likely have difficulty conceiving, if I could do so, at all. His encouragement was that as a man of faith, to take his words as just that, words. He was a mere doctor. He suggested if I wanted to have children some day, to ask children to pray. I left with hope, although devastated at the facts before me.

Fast forward and I was a newlywed and conceiving was on my mind, a lot. It’s funny, when you’re told you can’t have something isn’t that when you realize that’s the one thing you want? I never grew up wanting to be a mom or anything full of maternal bliss. As soon as I realized it might not be an option, I wanted to be a mom.

The PCOS for me was unique and challenging. Now that I’m 16 years after that diagnosis I realize how severe the hormonal imbalance was and I wish I’d fought harder for my peace of mind. The depression, just daily depression for no real reason beyond the imbalance assaulted me to no end. Add to it the sadness I felt regarding the situation and I was at times emotionally paralyzed. I’m not afraid to share this all was so consuming there were times I saw myself heading to the medicine cabinet for permanent relief. I write this not to be dramatic but to say to the woman reading this who feels the same—tell your doctor these things. Mine had no idea it was that bad. It wasn’t until years later when I started early menopause did that doctor understand how severe my moods were. I am now on a low dose medication to combat that and the menopause symptoms I had as well. I feel new and alive. Please don’t be ashamed to ask for help. You are worth it.

But…there was the physical pain as well. I was in such discomfort I could go to work and then I’d go to bed. It was constant pelvic pain that felt like I was in a vise. One night I was in such misery I remember crying out to God. I let Him know I was His and I knew there was more to my life than this. I understood I had something of purpose to do with my life and being in bed wasn’t it. I surrendered my ability to have children. I told him if I needed a surgery to end all chances to conceive, so be it. I just wanted my life to move forward.

From that surrender, things moved fast and the peace of God was overwhelming. My surgeon told me there was a procedure he could do that would not end my chances to conceive, but enhance them. He was fearful I would get my hopes up. I was adamant that this was no longer about conceiving, but just being able to live. I authorized the surgery. We moved into our first home. Nothing and no one could stop me, despite the pain.

Although the surgery isn’t done so much today, it was a wedge resection. He took half of each ovary out and in recovery he let me know he had never seen such large ovaries. It explained my constant pelvic pain. Turns out mine were FIVE TIMES the size of normal ovaries. I instantly felt better, even as I recovered.

The whole time I worked with a girls’ ministry at my local church. I asked them to pray for me and to ask God that one day I could be a mom. These girls believed God and pressed in. To this day when adults come to me for prayer I remind them to seek out kids. They are the ultimate prayer warriors.

I say all that to say…seven months after the surgery I was pregnant.

That baby is 13.

Another story for another day is in 2001 I miscarried, but I knew God had one more child for us.

In 2003 we had a daughter.

If you are struggling as an infertility patient I pray you don’t let the diagnosis own and define you. Believe God. Go to Him. Seek Him hard for His plan for your life. Don’t let doctor’s words trump God’s promises.

And have some children pray.

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10 Thoughts to “Marriage Monday: Have Some Children Pray”

  1. Thank you for sharing your story of pain, trial but the grace of God that gives hope and life! Loved reading about letting the children pray!! Blessings to you.

  2. Beautiful, Julie, just beautiful.

    You have spoken words of encouragement that I could never speak, because my experience is so different. Thank you for your openness, and for suggesting that CHILDREN pray. This idea is new to me. I shall remember it. Thank you again.

    Did I mention that I loved this post? Perhaps you could submit it for print publication. Many more need to read it and be blessed.

    Warm hugs, e-Mom ღ

    P.S. Thanks for your sweet introduction too!

  3. Your PCOS case is so amazing, 5 times the size of normal ovaries but you got pregnant after your surgery. Whew! God is really good and faithful! Thanks for sharing your very inspiring story.

  4. Just excellent – thank you for being real – thats just what we all need – real raw emotions exposed that brings such glory to a God who answered your prayers.

    My sister has PCOS and was told all the same things as you – BUT she is about to her first baby anyday now! She is not a believer I pray one day she will see the miracle of God in her life.

    I am 41 and have not had children – I had so wanted to be a part of this Marriage Monday but instead my dog has 6 puppies – lol – God’s humor. I do love Him.

    Thank you again, I really appreciated your thoughts. Enjoy those teenage years 😉

  5. Julie

    Thank you, Shelley! I’m so excited for you and your sister. You never know what will transpire in her journey. I will believe with you.

    Thanks for the teenage encouragement! 🙂

  6. Crissa

    It is a good practice to make praying a routine.. I really love to listen to my child when he prays.. thanks for this post! This is very interesting!

  7. Zac

    Praying is protection a strong protection in our daily activities.. Thanks for sharing your thoughts..

  8. FelipeG

    Praying keeps you mind at ease, gives you strength to face your problems. Thanks for this wonderful post

  9. nicole

    God is really good and faithful! Thanks for sharing your very inspiring story…I really love to listen to my child when he prays.. Thank you again, I really appreciated your thoughts. Enjoy those teenage years!

  10. Annyka

    Be guided by God! Praying is the most powerful tool.. Keep up the good work!

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