Guest Blogger Debra Johnson: 4 Things Christian Men Want
Since I’m not married yet, I don’t feel qualified to talk about surrender in marriage. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t understand what it means to surrender. Surrendering doesn’t start the day you get married. It is a lifestyle.
I’m dating a great Christian man. The first real ‘dating’ experience I’ve ever had. Through him, my eyes have been opened to many things; namely what a real Christian man is looking for in a future wife. You see, we are not dating to date, we are dating to get married, and that is point number one.
- Christian men are looking for a wife, not a girlfriend – I’m not saying that dating is wrong, but dating just for the sake of dating? No. The goal is to get to know someone well enough to see if you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Not to hang out and have fun. That is what friends are for.
- Christian men want a Christian – This should go without saying. Remember the whole unequally yoked thing? Yeah, that applies to dating as well. They are looking for a wife, therefore they are looking for a helper, and therefore they are looking for a Christian. And this is more than in name only. This means you know the Word and apply it to your life. This means more than church on Easter and Christmas. You want a strong Christian man? Be a strong Christian woman.
- Christian men want purity –I used to think they didn’t exist, but, yes, Virginia, there are still virgin men out there. Your husband can and should be pure, and so should you. I’m not saying you can’t recover from the mistakes of your past, but don’t make se*ual sin a part of your present.
- Christian men want someone who is strong enough to surrender–Last but not least, strong men want strong women. Someone who can handle the trials and tribulations of the world. But she is also strong enough to surrender to him. Because, believe it or not, it takes a lot of strength to surrender. You have to know that he may not always be right, but he must always be respected.
These four barely scratch the surface, but they do allow a small glimpse into the realities of Christian dating. Because our focus is not on what the world says we should need and desire but rather on what the Lord says there is an entirely new set of guidelines to follow. Much better, stronger, and more lasting than anything society promotes.
About the Author:
This guest post is contributed by Debra Johnson, blogger and editor of nanny babysitter.
She welcomes your comments at her email Id: – jdebra84 @ gmail.com.
