This is it! All week I’ve been sharing my posts from the Facebook Love Your Spouse Challenge. I hope you’ve been encouraged and wanting to apply oneness to your marriage. It’s worth it. Not easy. Worth it.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE CHALLENGE, DAY 7
Here we are. In a couple weeks we celebrate our 20th. There were people who questioned the age difference or the fact I was entering in a ready-made family. We went through infertility, miscarriage, parent deaths, job changes, near death of child and then the day-to-day.
We are not a perfect couple. In all honesty, this has been a tough year. We both changed our work situations. We had a child marry and a child graduate. We lost a beloved parent. Just one is what specialists suggest a couple go through in a year. Not all of them. We are both all or nothing personalities and we are both introverts. Affection is not natural for me, and he can be technical. We have different perspectives as parents, especially with medical issues. These truths are challenges.
But, God. We get each other’s jokes and laugh. The jokes we have are precious and goofy. We don’t get away a lot, so our hot tub dates are how we catch up on what’s going on, talk finances, schedule, etc…
We might get annoyed by failure to close cupboards or slurping, but if someone comes against one of us, we have each other’s back. If there’s a good action movie at the cheap theater, we’re all over it.
If you’re contemplating marriage or aren’t quite at year 20, realize those day 1 challenge pictures won’t look the same on day 7. You won’t be the same, either. I pray you are better, stronger, and more committed to oneness than you are right now. It is truly worth it.
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I try to be flexible.
But there are some things that drive me crazy.
- People in the left lane going 20mph.
- Movie goers who take forever to open up food bags and then eat with their mouth open.
- And then there’s the group that veto an idea because “that’s not the way we’ve done it.”
I’ve struggled with all of those and the last is particularly difficult because it’s often in Christian circles. When they back up their decision they’ll recount memories a couple decades old and how successful that was. So much so, they’ve done it that way ever since.
And plan to keep with that way of doing things unless God Himself intervenes.
Well, I’m getting a taste of my own medicine. I’ve been pretty vocal when I run into that argument that although God doesn’t change, the way He reaches people does. What worked in 1950 probably didn’t fly in 1970. Nor did 1970 traditions work in 1990. And on it goes.
So imagine my surprise when I heard myself talking this week.
“But ten years ago we had an impossible situation and it worked out. We had a straight sale.”
“Rent? Lease to own? But we’ve never done it that way before.”
And that’s where He got my attention. Those ways DID work. They were downright amazing. So much so it is worth remembering ten years later. But it’s a new day, new economy, new way of communicating within real estate, different place and mindset.
That’s what the agent challenged me to do. Make a shift in my thinking. Change my mindset.
We’re still in the gathering facts stage but honestly, what my husband and realtor shared is honest and wise. Forcing a plan because it worked in the past doesn’t sound so wise anymore. In fact, I realized it made me sound scared and a little desperate.
No. This is my confession, my blog.
But if you’re struggling with something different before you that deep down you believe God’s asking you to trust Him with, don’t say no because it’s not the way you’ve done it before.
Or else you sound like your own pet peeve.
Trust me on that.
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