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Surrender Story: Approval and the Eggplant

Posted by Julie on January 12, 2016 in About Me, encouragement, God's Word, Julie Arduini, Life Lessons, surrender |

This year my goal is to share surrender stories, encouragement from myself and others that will encourage you to surrender the good, the bad, and—maybe one day—the chocolate. Last week Sarah Hamaker shared her story about parenting expectations. Alexis A. Goring let us in on her journey about surrendering refined sugar.

My story is about letting go of people pleasing and approval.

For those that know me now, they can’t believe I’d waste much time on such a thing. Peers find me God confident and secure in who God says I am. Trust me, that wasn’t always the case.

I was a hurting person growing up and took offenses, even slight ones that weren’t even intentional, to my core. I nursed them, fed them, and sewed them into my heart. By the time I was in my mid/late twenties and starting married life, approval had a grip on me.

What my husband thought of me kept me busy day and night. Choices he made I zeroed in and was certain was because of me. I can’t tell you how many of our early conflicts had the words, “This isn’t about you.” I couldn’t believe it. And I was imagining so many disappointments he had about me that I conjured up real conflict.

I did the same with colleagues and clients. I wanted to be the best and felt I was only good at what I did when I saw the organization or may name in bold newspaper print. Well, not every task is going to make the news. I exhausted myself wanting the approval.

The object lesson that I share with ladies I speak with is the loudest example to me about how sick I was when it came to needing approval and caring what people thought of me. I am so NOT a crafty person. But years and years ago for Christmas dinner at the in-laws I was chiseling an eggplant into a penguin centerpiece. If Pinterest existed back then I would have scoured the site looking for something I could bring that would make me feel worthy enough to be there. I was up into early morning getting this eggplant centerpiece ready. By the time I got there, I was too tired to be social. No one cared about the penguin. These people just wanted to see ME.

This Pinterest eggplant penguin kept me up all hours just so I'd feel worthy enough to attend Christmas.

This Pinterest eggplant penguin kept me up all hours just so I’d feel worthy enough to attend Christmas. Image: Goods Home Design

But back then, I still didn’t see it, and surrendering it was a process.

Here’s what God did in me.

I went to a couple retreats where prayer was intensive and I took steps of faith to share my story and allow others to pray. The results were powerful. God showed up and I felt for the first time how deeply Jesus loved me. He started to re wire my mind.

Then, I read. I’m an avid reader and I’m not afraid of a tough Bible study. I journeyed through Beth Moore’s Believing God and a few years later, Stasi Eldredge’s Captivating. Both these books were tools in God’s arsenal to set me free.

This healing in my life paved the way for me to write. There was no way I could have pursued writing for the public the way I was, and sadly I see too many authors with this approval/what others think burden and it is exhausting for them and frustrating for those in their circles. It would have emotionally snuffed me out had I not sought healing. And in His mercy and humor, I did receive a negative review with Entrusted. The person was kind but they didn’t like the book. They even admitted the hardest part was they hit purchase twice, so they were stuck with two copies they didn’t want.

Not long ago that review would have sent me to bed and I would have kept it churning in my mind for months. Today? I smiled. Not because I’m mocking the reviewer, but I’m so thankful for what the Lord has done in me.

And my friend, He longs to do the same for you.

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Sabbath Sunday: Be a Firework

 

Sabbath Sunday–where I share an amateur nature(ish) picture and a few thoughts on God’s love for you.

Those oohs and ahhs aren’t just for fireworks.

Freedom isn’t just for Americans.

My story, in part, is about surrendering fear and what others thought about me.

That kind of peace has a price, but what a victory.

Be colorful.

Be a sight to behold.

Let all of heaven ooh and ahhh over God’s latest masterpiece.

Surrender what’s holding you back to the One who knows all.

And be a firework.

In Jesus’ name.

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Sabbath Sunday: Be a Firework

 

Sabbath Sunday–where I share an amateur nature(ish) picture and a few thoughts on God’s love for you.

Those oohs and ahhs aren’t just for fireworks.

Freedom isn’t just for Americans.

My story, in part, is about surrendering fear and what others thought about me.

That kind of peace has a price, but what a victory.

Be colorful.

Be a sight to behold.

Let all of heaven ooh and ahhh over God’s latest masterpiece.

Surrender what’s holding you back to the One who knows all.

And be a firework.

In Jesus’ name.

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Sabbath Sunday: Be a Firework

 

Sabbath Sunday–where I share an amateur nature(ish) picture and a few thoughts on God’s love for you.

Those oohs and ahhs aren’t just for fireworks.

Freedom isn’t just for Americans.

My story, in part, is about surrendering fear and what others thought about me.

That kind of peace has a price, but what a victory.

Be colorful.

Be a sight to behold.

Let all of heaven ooh and ahhh over God’s latest masterpiece.

Surrender what’s holding you back to the One who knows all.

And be a firework.

In Jesus’ name.

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Sabbath Sunday: Be a Firework

 

Sabbath Sunday–where I share an amateur nature(ish) picture and a few thoughts on God’s love for you.

Those oohs and ahhs aren’t just for fireworks.

Freedom isn’t just for Americans.

My story, in part, is about surrendering fear and what others thought about me.

That kind of peace has a price, but what a victory.

Be colorful.

Be a sight to behold.

Let all of heaven ooh and ahhh over God’s latest masterpiece.

Surrender what’s holding you back to the One who knows all.

And be a firework.

In Jesus’ name.

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Sabbath Sunday: Be a Firework

 

Sabbath Sunday–where I share an amateur nature(ish) picture and a few thoughts on God’s love for you.

Those oohs and ahhs aren’t just for fireworks.

Freedom isn’t just for Americans.

My story, in part, is about surrendering fear and what others thought about me.

That kind of peace has a price, but what a victory.

Be colorful.

Be a sight to behold.

Let all of heaven ooh and ahhh over God’s latest masterpiece.

Surrender what’s holding you back to the One who knows all.

And be a firework.

In Jesus’ name.



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