This is it! All week I’ve been sharing my posts from the Facebook Love Your Spouse Challenge. I hope you’ve been encouraged and wanting to apply oneness to your marriage. It’s worth it. Not easy. Worth it.
LOVE YOUR SPOUSE CHALLENGE, DAY 7
Here we are. In a couple weeks we celebrate our 20th. There were people who questioned the age difference or the fact I was entering in a ready-made family. We went through infertility, miscarriage, parent deaths, job changes, near death of child and then the day-to-day.
We are not a perfect couple. In all honesty, this has been a tough year. We both changed our work situations. We had a child marry and a child graduate. We lost a beloved parent. Just one is what specialists suggest a couple go through in a year. Not all of them. We are both all or nothing personalities and we are both introverts. Affection is not natural for me, and he can be technical. We have different perspectives as parents, especially with medical issues. These truths are challenges.
But, God. We get each other’s jokes and laugh. The jokes we have are precious and goofy. We don’t get away a lot, so our hot tub dates are how we catch up on what’s going on, talk finances, schedule, etc…
We might get annoyed by failure to close cupboards or slurping, but if someone comes against one of us, we have each other’s back. If there’s a good action movie at the cheap theater, we’re all over it.
If you’re contemplating marriage or aren’t quite at year 20, realize those day 1 challenge pictures won’t look the same on day 7. You won’t be the same, either. I pray you are better, stronger, and more committed to oneness than you are right now. It is truly worth it.
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October 1. Anyone else picking their jaw off the floor?
Given I take Saturdays to share a confession it’s perfect timing that this is October 1. If you’ve read my blog for any length of time you know I do a lot of reading, especially in areas that grow me in my Christian faith. I might not agree with everything or even understand it, but I love reading. I can’t tell you the number of times I read earlier this year that Fall 2011 would be a time of change.
Moving kind of change. Relationships transitioning. So much shifting in lives that what was up will now be down. That kind of change.
But first, we must choose to wrap up our loose ends. Loose the grudge. Stick to the wellness plan you’ve been half-hearted about. Commit to a budget that brings you closer to debt free. Forgive. Confess. Love. Have grace.
Easy to write, hard to do, I know. I have two wrap it up issues I know I have to deal with. One had me so angry that when I saw the person from afar I stuck my tongue out. I’m 41. Yep, I went there. Obviously I have some work to do . Another issue had me so upset I just sobbed in my car praying where they weren’t even words, just sad hiccups only God could understand.
Whether those promptings from readings are accurate for Fall or not, it’s a good thing for us to wrap things up. Don’t let what holds us back fester. Life is too short and I’ve seen people turn their wounds into toxicity to the point they physically became ill. Not good.
I’ll be honest, I am seeing things changing and fast. Governments. Leaders. Moves. Promotions. Long-time sins suddenly exposed. Reconciliations after years of praying happening overnight. I’m not saying any changes we might encounter will be easy. I do believe dealing with our issues no matter the future, is worth it.
Will you trust Him with your issues even if the fire is licking at your feet?
I’ll be there, too. I’ll be the middle-aged woman relying on God’s divine power so I can stop sticking my tongue out.
Reminder: Thursday is the kick-off for my book study, Captivating. It’s a 6 week study starting Thursday at 9pm EST. All you need is the book by John and Stasi Eldredge (if you absolutely can’t still come, but it helps) and then join me here.