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Taking a Swing For Marriage

Posted by Julie on May 16, 2012 in About Me, encouragement, Julie Arduini, Life Lessons |

I’m someone that learns from object lessons and word pictures. It’s a total God thing, and I appreciate that He created me that way. Recently He gave me a marriage object lesson and it helped me so much I thought I would share it.

This is for married couples, especially those who have been married a few years. The specific visual I had was golf but I think hunting is a good one, too. I remember my dad taking the same care preparing for a hunt as I see when the golfers in my life get ready for a game.

Married couples, don’t let a rut overtake your desire to have a great marriage. I know the day in and day out can threaten that, but doing nothing about it is your downfall.

Case in point:

The golfers and hunters I know have enjoyed their sport for years. Even though it’s not new for them, they approach each event with anticipation. They prepare by cleaning clubs or guns. Packing the right equipment. Loading everything into the vehicle with care.

Then when they arrive, each move is strategized. They want the very best from their day out.

The passion never wanes. Even on a day when the scores tank or there’s  no game to bring home, the golfers and the hunters still love the thrill of the chase.

So why are we so ho-hum about keeping our marriage on the upswing?

Maybe we take it for granted. The spouse is always there, but the hunting is seasonal and golf can get expensive. I don’t know, but the object lesson hit hard for me.

Ladies, I know these sound like male oriented activities, but don’t think I’m singling out husbands. It’s just the visual God gave me, and I got the message. We put so much time into things that might be fun, but pale in comparison in the commitment we should give our spouses, our marriages.

I don’t know if this is helping anyone, but it helped me.

So I thought I’d share.

You’re welcome.


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Character Confession: Frazzled. I Think That Fits.

Posted by Julie on June 4, 2011 in About Me, encouragement, Julie Arduini, Life Lessons, surrender |

I promised God that when I started writing no matter what I’d be transparent and honest.

Saturdays are all about my Character Confession and so here it is.





Summer vacation is days away. I think. I’ve heard 5 different versions of when the last day is. I wouldn’t care except I will be traveling almost immediately after whatever the last day is.

The doctor isn’t liking the result of a test I keep taking so off to a specialist I go. The office insists on making the appointment. Ok, I say, but make sure you don’t do it on these dates because I won’t be here.  They call.  Guess when the appointment is?

My son received a thick packet in the mail from Compassion. He told me last month they kept calling him during school but he wasn’t allowed to answer. I called and left a voice mail explaining he is a minor and if there is something to say, please call our numbers.  No call. The thick packet makes me nervous, so I open it first. I learn his child passed away and they are allowing him the option to leave Compassion. I had the fun of explaining the situation.

Most likely because of whatever is going on with me and the test, I’m not feeling 100%. I had one medicine switched but it is too early to tell if it is helping my symptoms. Remember last week’s confession about warm?  This week is starving and not sleeping.

Kids needed a talking to by dad for ignoring me and their chores. I have to stay on top of it and it’s work, but there is improvement.

As of typing this post there are no comments on my How Would You Handle It? weekly post.  Last week had great responses.  This week zero. I really believe this is a weekly thing I’m supposed to to.

Last minute notice on school and child social activities. I don’t do well with chaos.

I go to get hair done and the stylist remarks how she heard there was a change at the school my kids go to and do I agree with it. I offer that whenever there is transition I pray the person prospers. She isn’t thrilled with my answer. I’m nervous about the next hour.

I come home and hear my name through the window. It’s my neighbor who one minute will talk to me and then for three years won’t. She has no problem looking through my window and watching every move we make and when she did talk to me it was questioning my choices and/or running down everyone else. I believe the three year break was because she was offended when our dog ran away.  That was a devastating time and thankfully the dog returned and I even made a new friend from it. But the neighbor wouldn’t respond to my hellos or waves, nothing.

Until today.

Her grandson, who also isn’t a big fan of ours because I wouldn’t let my child play with him anymore, says is this your dog. The same dog escaped from our fenced in back yard. I still have no idea how she did it. I can’t find a crack that she can fit in, but it has to exist. The grandmother made it clear that she watched the dog run down two streets and nearly miss being hit three times. The glare said it all. So apparently I’ll be on another three year no speaking punishment.  I feel like a failure, but I confess, a little relieved as well. Things were a lot less stressful when she ignored me.

Hubby is golfing.  Youngest is sunburned and tired from field day. Oldest is wanting me to stop writing so I can take him to a party I just found out about. The dog is looking at me. I’m not sure I like my hair.

This is the stinker that has me in trouble with the neighbor…again.









I think that fits.

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